Egos and Empires
Ara Pehlivanian gives a wonderful how-to on becoming a blog snob. I fear that I follow a few too many of his "tips".
One of the things I like to do is be available to chat. All my info is sitting there on my contact page and a surprising number of people take the time to say hi. I'll even try and help you out if you have a problem (as Vanilla Ice says, "If you've got a problem, yo, I'll solve it. Check out the hook while my DJ revolves it." Yeah, let that song stick in your head all day.)
I can admit, though, that I'm not always the most responsive when it comes to emails. Mostly because I feel like I should have something interesting to say and, as my wife can attest to, I'm not always that interesting. Every now and then, though, I manage to catch up and hopefully haven't missed anybody.
Ara mentions a couple things here:
- Moderated comments
- No comments allowed
I have a little sense of pride on this point as I like getting comments (
comments = ego++). No moderation, no nofollow and comments (almost) always allowed. I also rarely turn off comments on old articles. I used to do it because of spam but with Movable Type and Akismet in place, spam is well under control (like, seriously, maybe one spam a week gets through).
I like to think I've managed to remain fairly clique-free. No blog rolls. Although, check out my Bloglines to see who I like to read, if you're really interested. I've sadly stopped using Bloglines for now as it was starting to interfere with work.
I still probably name drop but it's going to happen. Unless you're a hermit, you're going to talk to people. Some of those people might just run successful web sites. It's just inevitable and really, unintentional. We just want to give credit where credit is due.
On the whole ego thing
It's a hard thing to keep in check and often times, I've implemented things on here that I thought were just plain neat but discovered afterwards that some thought it very egotistical. For example, I used to show how many people were subscribed to the feed but after reading comments that some felt it was showing off, I got rid of it. (Admittedly, it does feel like the page counters of old.)
Other times, the attention can start to go to your head. (You're too kind. Love it!) In fact, reading comments like the ones on CSS Beauty can be a refreshing change. (Especially yours Darren. Hopefully this isn't too self-gratuitous.)
If it's one thing I've learned over the years, it's how to take criticism. I think it's an effective tool in becoming a better person and becoming better at what I do. Obviously, you can't take everybody's advice and so you have to filter out what will and won't work for you.